My 9th Letter to You

Hello Lovely,

How was the week, just gone? Did you do the things on your list? Or some of them?

What about the week ahead? How is that shaping up? You don’t have to do everything at once, remember that. The ones that impact your life the most are the ones to focus on first.

I read a while ago that procrastinating is what happens when we are stuck. Stuck in a mindset, stuck in a rut, stuck in a pattern. If you’re stuck, let me know and I can help unstick you. I am not sure that’s a word but I can certainly guide you in the right direction. Sometimes you just have to ask for help.

I am mentoring a few writers at the moment and it’s interesting to see the feelings of self-doubt and second-guessing are with everyone. My kids laugh at me when I use a phrase, one that I have used for twenty years when I am trying to motivate them, “Nothing to it but to do it,” and it’s still true.

I have a lot on in the week ahead, including a weekend interstate helping my daughter settle back to University. I also have jobs to finish and writing to do and I must clean my house today. I will feel better when it’s done. It has felt like a sword hanging over me so I might as well just do it!

I have been enjoying free things that are being offered on the web also. I have a new sofa, a banana tree, and a new fiddle leaf fig, all because people don’t want them anymore. Isn’t that lovely? I am more than happy to take them and enjoy them. I don’t even like bananas but who can say no to a fruit tree? I can always give the fruit away, thus the cycle of generosity goes on. That will be me on the stamp, handing out bananas!

I had brunch with a friend. I love her so. I bought her a lipstick called Rita because she’s glam as Rita Hayworth and sometimes lipstick is just the panacea a gal needs. She is good for my soul. I hope you have a friend like that. Someone. It’s hard being alone sometimes. I am grateful for my husband and children and my friends. Friends can be your chosen family. The only way to respond to disloyalty is with detachment. It’s funny when people don’t realise they are being disloyal. Disloyalty hurts in your bones. The idea that people who claim to love you, who then don’t defend you, or gossip with others about things you swore them to secrecy about are disloyal people. Don’t be around this. You have rights and deserve better.

I know you think that sometimes things should have been different for you, but just because things could’ve been different it doesn’t mean they would have been better. Who is to say how things work out? You know when you don’t want to go to something and it ends up being an amazing night, and then when you set up something in your mind to be incredible and it turns out to be a fizzer? It’s called expectations. You really need to let them go, Lovely One. Expect that you can do your best most of the time but expect nothing else from anyone or anything else. Just work through the list. One task at a time.

I’m always here if you need me. Let me know how I can help if I can help. If not, I will be sending you healing and productive energy from here.

Much love to you,